Monday, August 22, 2011

Eye Appointment

Alanna's eyes cross. They both cross in, but not necessarily at the same time or to the same degree, and not all the time. The doctor looked at her eyes, he agreed "yes, I do think they are crossing" mmmk.
So they gave her the drops to dialate her eyes, we waited 20 minutes then he took a lense and a light to look and check for refraction to see if she is farsighted. None of which she appreciated.
He explained all kids are far sighted, but kids with with disabilities such as Down Syndrome are more prone to it. He said the plan would be for her to wear glasses all the time. Until sometime when she is 5,6,7, 8, or so she will outgrow the farsightedness. Her eyes are crossing in an effort to see, so supposedly the crossing will stop with the glasses because she will be able to see.
He said he wanted to see her back in 1 month. Of course there is an eye shop attached to his office, so he gave us a coupon and sent us on our way. They tried 2 pairs of glasses on her, both metal frames, which seemed very unrealistic to me, the glasses will be over 200.00 and I can see her reaching up and breaking those in about 10 seconds flat. So I am researching our options.
As I was about to leave the room, the docotor says he wants to ask me something personal. "Why in the world would you want to adopt a 4th child when he already have 3" (he had asked earlier if she was my only child) My big response was "because we wanted to, and we could, so we did"
I did not get the vibe this is what he wanted to ask me, I think what he was getting at was why did you adopt a child with special needs when you have children already. He went on to say he just didn't understand, etc... Why would anyone want so many children? He said he had 3 and that my kids must just be better behaved than his because it was hard. To which I said "must be, my kids are pretty amazing"

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  1. My daughter has had glasses since just after she turned three and she is still on her first set of frames. They are made by Lindberg and are super light, made of titanium and without screws or other small parts that could break. The hinges flex a lot so "spreading" the glasses doesn't seem to hurt them. My daughter is now five and she insists on wearing them to sleep in. They are super cute, too, and come in many different colors. Well worth the extra money! Good luck.

  2. So sorry the doctor said that to you! Great response though!


  3. OMG! Why do people say such things, esp. medical professionals?????? I was also asked such questions when we were about to adopt our 3rd child...from my gyn "Why do you want to work so hard??" (he had 3 kids) and from our family doc "Why do you want to adopt at your age?" (I brought home our 2 year old when I was 43). Hard to believe that people (much less medical professionals) are so narrow-minded. So sorry you had to hear that. It's nice to come in contact with others who do "get it"...