tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417985506148781567.post4558481396760393846..comments2023-06-21T09:23:31.216-04:00Comments on 1moremakes6: Stimming makes me cryAddingOnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14800867096187280276noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417985506148781567.post-65035462163772800952011-06-19T16:49:43.184-04:002011-06-19T16:49:43.184-04:00http://www.adoptionarticlesdirectory.com/Article/T...http://www.adoptionarticlesdirectory.com/Article/The-second-glance-at-institutional-autism-in-internationally-adopted-children/81Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417985506148781567.post-4834443003711510752011-06-12T12:00:02.877-04:002011-06-12T12:00:02.877-04:00How long have you been home? Many kids will conti...How long have you been home? Many kids will continue to show orphanage behaviors for the first year or even more. So, even if she does have autism things will likely still improve. Our Sunshine (age 4, home 2 years) does have autism and down syndrome together but many of her more extreme behaviors have diminished over time. Also, even if it is autism it doesn't mean that you won't be able to connect with her. It may be a different type of connection but most children with autism do still connect with their caregivers. <br /><br />I would definitely look into therapies that would help with the symptoms, especially sensory integration therapy. Sensory therapy has been a huge help for Sunshine and I know a number of other families have talked about how a sensory "diet" has helped minimize symptoms and help their child cope in stressful situations. <br /><br />If you'd like to talk please feel free to email me or we can talk by phone sometime too. This is hard stuff and you need support! You will also be in my prayers. <br /><br />Blessings,<br />Rachel Whitmire<br />Post-Adoption Care Coordinator<br />Reece's Rainbow Down Syndrome Adopiton Ministry<br />rachel@reecesrainbow.org <br />www.reecesrainbow.orgReading Widely https://www.blogger.com/profile/04623490605434252471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417985506148781567.post-80612586443778951282011-06-10T23:56:28.599-04:002011-06-10T23:56:28.599-04:00I am so sorry you guys are having a difficult time...I am so sorry you guys are having a difficult time. I found wearing my son in an ERGO baby carrier really helped with Stimming, it provides them with deep pressure against your body and he found it very comforting. While she is not getting about yet walking, it might be good to use something like an ERGO so that you can get on with your day and she can be with you and hopefully it will cut the stimming so you both can relax. My ERGO was life saver (mine). Viv<br />www.born21ofmarch.blogspot.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417985506148781567.post-37486563153050038582011-06-10T20:36:40.587-04:002011-06-10T20:36:40.587-04:00Thinking of you, Cara, and feeling helpless. Hopef...Thinking of you, Cara, and feeling helpless. Hopefully, knowing that your family loves you and supports you may help in some small way.<br />Love,<br />JanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417985506148781567.post-22225639778148585742011-06-10T09:22:16.351-04:002011-06-10T09:22:16.351-04:00I am certainly no professional, but it could be he...I am certainly no professional, but it could be her way of coping with the change. It is very traumatic! Darya stimmed quite a bit when we got home. She was easily overstimulated and often would go to her bedroom to be by herself. She rocked herself to sleep violently and banged her head. Autism never crossed my mind, but I just associated them with orphanage stimming behaviors. Eventually they started to go away when she adjusted to her new environment, though she will still sometimes rock herself to sleep or bang her head back (when she's mad). I did recently read somewhere that about 7% of children with DS can also have autism, so it is a possibility, but I think the orphanage behaviors can also seem like autism. One thing that Darya had to learn was how to be held! Seriously, at the orphanage she was very awkward on my hip as if she was never regularly held. So things like peek-a-boo, and how to normally react to it, may be a foreign concept to her. I don't know if I really have any advice for you, but hang in there and know that many other families have experienced what you are! ((HUGS))Mariannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04957874695552763609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417985506148781567.post-8702923432499674282011-06-09T22:30:09.084-04:002011-06-09T22:30:09.084-04:00I wish I had some great words of wisdom for you, b...I wish I had some great words of wisdom for you, but I must rely on my motto-God never gives you any more than youcanhandle.. You must be just the family she needed, and I believe, in time, she will flourish. Do u readhttp://www.nogreaterjoymom.com/? I know she has adopted many times and faced many challenges with her kiddos, she may be able to offer some advice. In the meantime, check with your pediatrician, and I will keep you in my prayersKellan's mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03097759480247217652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417985506148781567.post-39397260218899323502011-06-09T20:51:29.121-04:002011-06-09T20:51:29.121-04:00Oh you have me in tears! Autism is VERY scary to m...Oh you have me in tears! Autism is VERY scary to me so I certainly won't minimize it. However I will tell you that a got to nanny a little boy who has Autism for two years, and we found amazing ways to connect. I'll also share that my brother, Brad (37, DS) has ALWAYS stimmed. He used to smack his hands together, and we managed to transition him over time to a toothbrush (not the one he uses to brush his teeth) which he now gently taps against his hand. <br /><br />I don't know what is going on with your beautiful little girl. But I know God loves her and made her just the way she is. <br /><br />And God loves you, made you just as you are, and has a beautiful reason for bringing you two together. <br /><br />Brooke Annessa<br />www.theannessafamily.blogspot.comThe Annessa Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11929967116411498173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417985506148781567.post-23894165736445646422011-06-09T17:46:13.098-04:002011-06-09T17:46:13.098-04:00I am so sorry this is so hard...
I can only tell ...I am so sorry this is so hard...<br /><br />I can only tell you my oldest bio child (breastfed until 12 months) had many "autistic symptoms" as a toddler/preschooler...<br /><br />the hand flapping, hard time with eye contact, repetitive jumping, repetitive speech (would answer questions with quotes from TV shows), toe-walking, could not "read" other kids and make appropriate comments, would talk forever until everyone else got bored and would not see the "cues" that he should stop...<br /><br />he is now almost 19 years old and just graduated high school with his gold NHS tassles, he has a learning disability (auditory processing disorder) and still has some autistic/aspergers type symptoms...but is heading to college next year and is an amazing young man...<br /><br />the symptoms got better and better as he got older and got treatment at school and we worked at home ("let's see your eyes Brent" and "sweetie remember to stop and let the other child take a turn to talk")...<br /><br />he is not totally "normal" and I could not care less, this is how God made him...<br /><br />he is the hardest working boy I know and he want to be a special ed teacher for young children because he remembers how hard it was to feel "stupid" and "lost" at school (he could not read at all until 6th grade)...<br /><br />this is the hardest it will ever be...<br /><br />I will pray for you and your little sweetie my dear!!<br /><br />Carla<br />www.bringinghenryhome.blogspot.comCarla Dobshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13774997165220926432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417985506148781567.post-89354974441543232272011-06-09T16:12:36.674-04:002011-06-09T16:12:36.674-04:00Cara... I know you don't want to hear this, an...Cara... I know you don't want to hear this, and I hope and pray that I'm wrong, but those are autistic behaviors (my oldest son is autistic). As scary as it is to learn, or to think of it ias a possibility, it's not a horrible thing. Will it take work and patience and time and lots of love to pull her out of herself? OH YEAH!! Will it happen overnight? NO WAY! It will happen as you have seen... a little at a time... Love her, pray for the situation, and take comfort in knowing that she is your daughter, the one that God created for you, and led you to finding. He will give you what you need to help her. If you need anything, PLEASE LET ME KNOW!!! Love ya girlie!! Mel (dellanos1@gmail.com)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8417985506148781567.post-50067301159820312832011-06-09T09:10:58.849-04:002011-06-09T09:10:58.849-04:00I don't have any advice, as we are going throu...I don't have any advice, as we are going through some of the same things. I just wanted to say thank you for writing the truth and I hope someone else will have answers.Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13079283785228132950noreply@blogger.com